Those life-changing moments when our compass spins with no direction, we ask God to guide us.
Before we find the path He wishes us to take, He nudges and we step with trepidation until we are assured He is the one guiding and protecting us from ourselves.
Sometimes when we are the most certain it is He who is directing our steps, we are in the way of His choices.
We must know our own selves well enough to know that we are not fooling our self. There are some very basic relationships in life that need to be fully explored before knowing ourself completely. Those relationships form the basis of long-term unions and it is important that we know what our role is or what we can truly create and what we are lacking, so there are no surprises.
Intimate knowledge of the one we see as our other half is also critical.
Ask each other "What do you see yourself (us) doing in 5 years, 10 years." Write down the answers in separate rooms and then compare the responses.
Ask each other " Who will make money? Who will be responsible for paying the bills?"
Ask each other, " How many children? When? What religion and spiritual upbringing will we give them?"
Ask each other, "What is the weirdest thing you ever did?" What do you think of it now?
Ask each other, "Rank in importance the following : family, work, money, religion, friends, art,
music, books, cars,.... add anything you like. List separately and compare together, discuss.
Ask each other" How shall we discipline the children? Who will have the 'last word'? Ever...
Who will decide what color to paint the living room? What kind of car to drive? Where to live?
Will we both work? How long? Will one quit a job for the other? Why? Why not?
What do you see your greatest challenge within yourself? Do you think I can/will help you with that?
These questions are for discussion and to evaluate 'life decision' compatibility. I don't suggest any answers or place ANY judgement one way or another. These are things a successful couple explore BEFORE marriage. All that and more...
If you don't think they are important...try one anyway. See where it goes.
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Thank you for your guidance from across the sea. Dominick and I are definitely taking the time to get to know each other and answer all those questions and more. And in all things, we are seeking God first, making Him the center of this relationship, the reason for it, the orchestrator of it. By seeking Him together, we are growing closer to each other. We are letting things develop according to His divine planning. It's truly amazing, and I am humbled by the fact that I am undeserving of such a love. But this love is helping me know how much greater God's love for me is.
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